Small Group Time:

Talking through the message during the week helps you and your group turn what God is saying to you into action steps. Begin with key questions, add any optional Scriptures and questions if needed, and then wrap up by deciding on your next steps.

Main Idea:

We all want to hit the target. It doesn’t matter what facet of life we’re talking about, we all desire to aim for something & then be able to accomplish it. Yet, in spite of that desire, the one area where it seems most difficult to consistently hit the target is with our families. These are the most important relationships in our life, but also the most difficult relationships in our lives. What does it take to start living towards the target?

Key Questions:

1. Growing up, were your parents too strict or too loose? Explain.

2. Why is it so hard to think about letting go of your kids?

3. Ben talked about our role as parents was to look at parenting as a “catapulting system” not a “confinement system”. Why is it easier to look at parenting as a confinement system?

4. Read Genesis 2:24. Does it ever feel like your kids constantly come first in your family? What are some steps we need to take to make sure our marriage always comes first?

5. Talk about the ROPE ANALOGY. Do you think you are too TIGHT or too LOOSE as a parent? What are some healthy ways to find the perfect balance?

6. Ben said, “When you let go, you are responsible to your kids not for your kids.” Have you ever experienced a moment when your grown kids made bad choices and you felt responsible for them (or know someone who has experienced this)? What’s the difference between being responsible to and being responsible for? Why is it so important to make this distinction when your kids become adults?

Next Steps:

•  What’s one thing you will do this week as a result of something you learned from this message?